The Mirror We Avoid with Chad Taylor
CONTENT WARNING: Explicit language and reference to suicide in this episode.
On this week’s episode of The True North Show I am joined by Chad Taylor, a wonderful fellow “Aussie” who shares with us his incredible journey that he has been on for most of his life. Chad is so clear and concise about the work he does, both on himself and with his clients and I love his deep belief that even though he is the therapist, he too works with a therapist to ensure he is consistently up-levelling and showing up as the best version of himself for his personal and professional life. Our conversation is very different to those I’ve had before, but definitely not one to miss, there is a lot of personal transformation that he shares that is truly inspiring.
Bio:
Chad Taylor is a clinical psychotherapist, author of “It’s You. Oh F*ck. It’s Me.”, and host of “Who the F*ck Are You? In Session with a Psychotherapist”. His work focuses on relationships, projection, addiction, intimacy, blame, and the unconscious patterns that quietly run our lives while we convince ourselves the problem is somewhere else. Chad’s approach to psychotherapy comes from both clinical training and lived experience. After entering recovery from drug and alcohol addiction at 22, his own path has included more than two decades of sobriety, therapy, study, relationships, failures, and confronting the parts of himself he once found much easier to blame on other people.
That experience sits at the heart of his work. Chad believes relationships rarely fall apart simply because people stop loving each other. More often, two people become trapped inside their own fears, projections, defences, expectations, and unresolved issues. Instead of recognising what is happening internally, they point outward. It becomes, “It’s you.” His work is about reaching the far more uncomfortable realisation, “Oh f*ck. It’s me.” Not as blame. Not as shame. As responsibility.
Chad works with individuals and couples to understand what actually happens when intimacy exposes the parts of us we would rather avoid. Why we become defensive, shut down, attack, escape, or repeat the same relationship patterns with different people while remaining convinced we just keep choosing the wrong partner. His work also explores addiction beyond drugs and alcohol. The endless search for relief can show up through work, sex, relationships, money, achievement, social media, substances, or anything else that temporarily allows us to avoid what is happening inside us.
Chad does not present himself as someone who has figured everything out. Quite the opposite. His work is grounded in the belief that insight means nothing if it does not change how we actually behave when we are triggered, rejected, frightened, angry, or desperate to be right. His conversations are direct, personal, psychologically informed, and occasionally uncomfortable, because sometimes the person f*cking up your relationship is not sitting across from you. Sometimes it’s you.
Social Media:
Website: https://chadtaylorpsychotherapy.com.au/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61587473754148
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chad.taylor.psychotherapist/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chad-taylor-36b896165/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@chad.taylor.psychotherapist
